You can’t stop people from talking. That’s a fact of life.
People who you have never met, shared nothing more than small talk with or have spent just a few minutes in their company suddenly feel empowered to make judgment calls about who you are and what you represent.
This week, I have been on the receiving end of a lot of hatred and gossip. People who I knew were never in my corner further confirmed my beliefs. It didn’t come as a surprise. I was prepared in more ways than one.
Here Comes The Gossip
I have had many calls and texts from people wanting to spread gossip – telling me who said what about me and how they said it. Some mean well, others don’t.
I have stopped them in the middle of their sentences, telling them I don’t want to hear it. When you’re going through trials, it’s easy to get down. You may even be tempted to allow that negativity in. Don’t.
Your number one priority during this time is to protect your space and maintain your spirit and integrity.
When I see a call coming from someone that I know doesn’t mean me well, I ignore it. Those people aren’t calling to check on me. They’re calling to get gossip. I know this because they never leave a message. They never follow up. They expose themselves.
Don’t RSVP To Drama
It’s human nature to want to defend yourself – to explain the real reason why something happened. But, why waste your time defending yourself to people who don’t matter. I always say, people who don’t matter, don’t matter. You have to know what to ignore.
Just because someone invites you to drama doesn’t mean you need to RSVP.
The best response to people who are secretly and outwardly wishing the worst for you is to keep on smiling and to shine even brighter.
Don’t badmouth those who did you wrong, don’t match their negative energy; just keep on moving. Life will expose those naysayers. They will continue to stew in their sourness while you step into your purpose.
Dodinksy, the author of In The Garden of Thoughts said, “When faced with senseless drama, spiteful criticisms and misguided opinions, walking away is the best way to stand up for yourself. To respond with anger is an endorsement of their attitude.”
So, let them continue talking behind your back. Your job is to take the high road . . . and keep smiling.